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  Get Anyone to Do

  Anything and

  Never Feel

  Powerless Again

  Psychological Secrets

  to Predict, Control, and Influence Every Situation

  MULTIMEDIA EDITION

  David J. Lieberman, Ph.D.

  Get Anyone to Do Anything: Multimedia Edition. Copyright 2010 by David J. Lieberman, Ph.D. No part of this multimedia book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever without written permission except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles or reviews.

  For information, contact [email protected]

  Contents

  Introduction

  The Secrets Inside and How to Use Them

  Section I: Get Anyone to Like You, Love You, or Just Plain Think You’re Great!

  1. Get Anyone to Like You...Every Time

  2. Get Anyone to Find You Irresistibly Attractive

  3. How to Make a Fantastic First Impression

  4. Get the Instant Advantage in Every Relationship

  5. Get Anyone to See You as Pure Gold

  6. How to Appear Calm, Confident, and in Control in Any Situation

  Section II: Never be fooled, tricked, manipulated, used, lied to, or taken advantage of again

  7. The Six-Star Test to See if Someone Is a True Friend

  8. Does His Story Check Out?

  9. How to Tell if Someone Is Trying to Manipulate You

  10. How to Tell if a Person’s Bluffing in Any Situation

  11. How to See Through People

  12. Get Anyone to Say What He’s Really Thinking

  Section III: Take Control of any situation and get anyone to do anything

  13. Get Anyone to Take Immediate Action in Any Situation

  14. Get Anyone to Take Your Advice

  15. Get Anyone to Follow Through on a Commitment to You

  16. How to Get a Stubborn Person to Change His Mind About Anything

  17. Get Anyone to Do a Favor for You

  18. The Greatest Psychological Secrets of Leadership

  19. Get Anyone to Understand Anything

  20. Minority Rule

  21. How to Get Any Group of People to Get Along

  Section IV: How to win at any competition: beat out anyone for the job, the date, or the game

  22. Secrets to Winning in Any Competition

  23. The #1 Mistake Most People Make in Life

  Section V: make life easy: learn how to instantly take life’s most annoying, frustrating,

  and difficult situations and get the upper hand every time!

  24. Get Anyone to Return Your Phone Call Immediately

  25. Get Anyone to Forgive You for Anything

  26. The Best Way to Break Bad News

  27. Get Back Anything You’ve Loaned Fast, and Without an Argument

  28. Say No Without Hurt Feelings or Guilt

  29. How to Turn a Rude and Obnoxious Person into Your Best Friend

  30. How to Stop a Rumor Before Your Reputation Pays a Price

  31. Stop Verbal Abuse Instantly

  32. Get Anyone to Open Up to You

  33. Deal with Any Complaint Fast and Easy

  34. Stop Jealous Behavior in an Instant

  35. How to Get the Best Advice from Anyone

  36. Give the Harshest Criticism Without Ever Offending

  37. Get Anyone to Confide in You and Confess Anything

  38. How to Handle Any Tough (or Stupid) Questions

  39. Just for Parents

  40. Get Out of Almost Any Physical or Sexual Assault

  Conclusion

  Bibliography

  About the author

  Introduction

  Are you tired of being manipulated and taken advantage of? Do you sometimes feel you’re not being listened to and don’t get the respect and cooperation that you deserve? If you’ve ever wanted the ability to take control of every conversation and situation, now you’ve got it! Why go through life letting others lead you, when you can use the greatest psychological secrets to make things go your way...get anyone to do anything...and never feel powerless again!

  Here, you enter a world where psychology reigns and detecting deceit, changing a person’s mind, or controlling a situation are reduced to an easy-to-follow formula—a series of simple techniques and tactics.

  You will be able to use the most complete and advanced psychological strategies to enable your mind to become your greatest weapon. Most exciting, you should know that we’re not talking about “tricks” that work sometimes on some people. This book contains only specific psychological tactics governing human behavior that will let you outsmart, outthink, and outmaneuver...anyone, anyplace, anytime. These are carefully formulated tactics based on specific psychological principles and can be applied to any situation.

  Imagine how easy life would be if you were able to predict and control the outcome of any encounter. And instead of wondering what was going to happen, you applied proven, fast-working psychological tactics to gain complete and total cooperation from all people in any situation.

  Have you ever asked someone to help you out and much to your surprise she happily obliged? Or perhaps you wanted to make a good impression and the person found you completely irresistible? You wonder if it was luck, the person’s mood, or the situation—when in actuality you likely applied principles that govern human behavior without even knowing it. The good news is that you can duplicate those same responses, systematically, any time you want, with anyone.

  To make it easy for you to learn how to apply these psychological secrets, the book is divided into forty mini-chapters, each governing various real-life situations. And best of all, once you become familiar with the psychological principles, you’ll see that you can use the techniques to be successful anytime, in any situation that you find yourself in.

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  The Secrets Inside and How to Use Them

  The Greatest Collection of Psychological Tactics to Make Everything Go Your Way

  If you wanted to make life easy what would be on your wish list? Maybe...in every area of life you know how to avoid ever being taken advantage of or manipulated; are able to end verbal conflicts with a single phrase; understand how to lead, influence, and motivate anyone to your way of thinking; and are able to become anything to anyone by winning friends and changing instantly how others see you. In short, you’d have a life made easy. You’re about to learn how to use the greatest psychological techniques for success in every area of your life.

  Section I: Get Anyone to Like You, Love You, or Just Plain Think You’re Great!

  If you want to be successful in life, you often need to get cooperation from other people. And the number-one rule for getting people to do what you want is to get them to like you. Whether you want to make a new friend or gain an ally, these psychological tactics show you step-by-step how to get anyone to think you’re great. Plus, in romantic situations you’ll discover how to get anyone to find you irresistibly attractive. And, once you’re in the relationship, you’ll be able to apply the greatest secrets for always having the upper hand.

  Section II: Never be Fooled, Tricked, Manipulated, Used, Lied to, or Taken Advantage of Again

  If you want to make life go your way, you, of course, want to avoid being manipulated and fooled by people who don’t have your best interests at heart. You would need to “see through people” and easily tell who is out for you and who is out to get you. In this section you’ll learn psychological tactics to determine, almost instantly, if someone is trying to take advant
age of you. Whether it’s personal or professional, you never have to get that helpless feeling of trusting the wrong person again.

  Section III: Take Control of Any Situation and Get Anyone to Do Anything

  Now, to really make things go your way, you’re going to need to control certain situations. Here you’ll learn how to easily influence others to your way of thinking. Get anyone to understand, agree with, and then do what you want! Learn the secrets to getting a single person or an entire group to trust, believe, and follow you. Whether it’s changing one person’s opinion or leading a crowd, you’ll use the latest and most advanced tools governing human nature to make people go your way.

  Section IV: How to Win at Any Competition: Beat Out Anyone for the Job, for the Date, or for the Game

  Sometimes it’s not a matter of swaying a person to your side—when, for instance, you are competing with someone for the same thing. You’ll learn the greatest psychological techniques for winning at any competition. Whether it’s a tennis match, a job promotion, or even a date, when it’s you against him, you’ll win. In this section you’ll learn how to make your mind your greatest weapon and become the perfect psychological warrior.

  Section V: Make Life Easy: Learn How to Instantly Take Life’s Most Annoying, Frustrating, and Difficult Situations and Get the Upper Hand Every Time!

  Wouldn’t it be great if everyone was as nice and pleasant as you? Sure it would, but some people aren’t and they just get “under our skin.” So, for life’s little nuisances this section gives you an array of tactics where a little psychology goes a long way. Whether you want a phone call returned or you want someone to forgive you, these techniques work to make life easy!

  Note to readers: Because these techniques are based on human nature, factors such as culture, race, and gender are negligible, unless otherwise noted. Throughout all of the examples in this book the pronouns he and she are used interchangeably. This was done to make the language less sexist, not to indicate that the technique is gender specific.

  Section I

  Get Anyone to Like You, Love You, or Just Plain Think You’re Great!

  Here you will discover those psychological factors that influence the levels of interest other people have in you. You’re going to see just how easy it is for you to get anyone to like you (or dislike you). By following a simple strategy based on human nature, you can create trusting, lasting friendships and relationships with complete ease. And so we’re clear, these aren’t ways to manipulate other people into liking you. Rather, you’ll be orchestrating the application of certain psychological principles and methodologies to bring out and develop a natural chemistry.

  The obvious question then is, “Why do I need these techniques if all I’m doing is bringing out a natural chemistry? Doesn’t it stand to reason that if it’s there it’s there, and if it’s not it’s not?” While that seems as if it would be so, below explains why the answer is no.

  It is in our nature as human beings to seek affiliation, to make friends, and to care about others. But sometimes it can be hard for a person to reach out and “expose” his or her true self and feelings. Most people want to like, want to love, want to connect, but they are afraid. Things get in the way of their innate desire; things like fear of rejection, vulnerability, ego, and jealousy are but a few of the multitude of mixed emotions, attitudes, and beliefs that keep us from reaching out and bonding with others. What these psychological techniques do is to simply influence a person’s natural state to emerge. We feel good when we give, when we love, and when we help. It’s not about twisting someone’s brain so that he does your unconditional bidding; it’s about bringing the person’s submerged desires to the surface.

  In this section we cover different levels of interpersonal relations. At the core of all relationships, though, is mutual liking. No one will be attracted (for any length of time) to someone whom he doesn’t like and respect. So, the tactics below, while separated into individual specific strategies, can and should be used together. Most important, Chapter 1, Get Anyone to Like You...Every Time, is the foundation not only for this section but for several of the chapters throughout the book. We’ll talk more about the importance of this later.

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  Get Anyone to Like You...Every Time

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  What are those elusive traits and qualities that arouse feelings of friendship and likability in a person? In just a minute you’ll discover that they’re not elusive at all. In fact they can be reduced to a simple formula that will help you to develop a natural chemistry with anyone.

  The fact is we like or dislike a person based upon a strict set of mostly unconscious processes. It does not happen by chance. But the reality that we’re unaware of the process makes it seem as if it occurs without much rhyme or reason. Nothing could be farther from the truth. The following is a complete list and discussion of the nine psychological laws and phenomena that affect, influence, and even alter what we think of someone so you can get anyone to like you.

  Keep in mind, too, that research shows that our liking a person can influence how physically attractive we think he or she is, and that we also tend to like more someone whom we find attractive. So this chapter and the one that follows it go hand-in-hand and can be used as part of an overall strategy.

  1. Law of Association

  The law of association is discussed in more detail throughout this book, but it has a very specific application here. Briefly, by pairing yourself with pleasurable stimuli another person will begin to associate you with this feeling. Studies conclude that if, for instance, you were planning your vacation you would associate those favorable feelings with whoever was around you at the time, and you would subsequently like the person more. Conversely, research in this area shows us that when you have a stomachache, for instance, those around you become unconscious victims of circumstance, and you tend to like them less. Of course there’s more to liking than just this pairing of pleasant stimuli with a person, but it can generate powerful feelings, either good or bad, toward you.

  So if you want to be liked by a person, try talking to him when he is in a good mood or excited about something. These feelings are anchored and associated with you, and this person will then come to have positive feelings toward you.

  S Power Point

  Sometimes it’s easy to tell if a person’s in a good mood. But if you’re not sure, look at his face.

  È If he’s in a good mood he’ll likely greet you with a full smile, eyes wide open. If he greets you with a partial “lips only” smile—one that does not involve his whole face—then this is a “forced courtesy smile” and usually reflects a person who is not in a good mood.

  È Eye contact is a strong indicator of mood. When we are in a good mood we tend to make more direct eye contact. Conversely, when we’re in a bad mood we tend to look down or away from the person we’re speaking to.

  2. Repeat Exposure

  The old adage “familiarity breeds contempt” is commonly accepted but interestingly enough, it’s not true. In reality, it’s the opposite. Numerous studies conclude that the more you interact with someone, the more he or she will like you.

  According to Moreland and Zajonc (1982), repeated exposure to any stimulus—in this case a person—leads to a greater appreciation and liking (as long as the initial reaction is not negative). This is true of anything—a person, a place, or even a product: the greater the exposure, the more positive the response. This is why companies sometimes advertise just a picture of a product, or its name, without any specific features or benefits of using the product. They don’t need to tell us how wonderful it is, only remind us of it. Exposure, being an obvious component of repetition, can alone increase sales or votes, which is why advertisers and politicians exploit this phenomenon. This factor of human behavior is so powerful that studies show that even a letter in the alphabet that also appears in our name is perceived as more attractive than a letter that is not
in our name.

  By simply being around more, you will actually “grow” on this person. Sometimes we make the mistake of trying to appear mysterious, aloof, or unavailable to someone, but in doing so we diminish our number of interactions. Studies conclude that we become friends with, and tend to like more, those who are physically nearest to us because of this increased level of interaction. (By the way, you don’t have to worry about enacting the law of scarcity, unless you want this person to be attracted to you! That is because the basis of liking follows a different paradigm than for attraction. We will learn more about that law in this section.)

  3. Reciprocal Affection

  Countless studies (and common sense) have established that we tend to like more those who like us. When we find out that someone thinks well of us, we in turn are unconsciously driven to find him or her more likable as well. Therefore, you want to let your “target person” know that you like and respect him, if indeed you do.

  What if he really doesn’t like me at all? Oddly enough, studies conclude that if he started out not liking you and gradually came around to liking you, he will eventually like you more than if he had liked you right from the beginning. Keep in mind, if you don’t have a great relationship with him, don’t do a “180,” suddenly making this person your best friend. Studies show us that gradual liking is infinitely more effective than instantly becoming someone’s best friend. So don’t be overwhelming and “out-of-the-blue” his number-one fan. To engage the law of reciprocal affection gradually, let it be known that you are fond of this person.